The one… More like the one we search for forever and never find! (cough cough due to the media and society’s expectations!)
One must understand that searching for “the one” is not the right way to go. When you are searching for the one you easily have expectations for them… Such as, they have to be handsome, or they MUST love EVERYTHING I love. I will tell you in advance that is exactly how you fall OUT of love. In order to find someone, there has to be a connection, without question. The catch; it won’t only be one relationship with the strong connection… So, there really is no perfect “one”.
It is much like approaching different situations with an open mind. You see what you are most into or can have close ties with, and find a connection. WARNING: The connection doesn’t always spark off at first. It takes a bit of work, such as maybe texting and talking but as soon as feelings and passion are reciprocated, (RECIPROCATED, YOU HEAR? If the other person is unsure it’s not worth your time to wait. period.), you are more than welcome to introduce passion… This is the fuel to the fire. If passion runs out so will the want to try other (more passionate) people… So, keep the fire going! It’s like they say, if you’re bored it means you’re simply a boring person.
To ensure the passion keeps on keeping on, it is important if not essential to maintain your confidence and all of the good virtues in tact. For example, say you have trust issues. You can doubt them all you want, but communication is important and so you must tell the partner what’s wrong. This will give them a hint to fight for you. With that in order the last part is a bit of fun… You can never go wrong with trying something new together and always keeping busy, especially avoiding a routine.
If I could be a little more obvious I would also add:
-you must invest time and QUALITY time into a relationship.
-ensure you’re actually going somewhere in the relationship, don’t sit on the same pedestal forever (AHEM- if they still aren’t sure they want you then it shouldn’t even be a question!)
Lastly, I’d like to note out there to the dating newbies:
When you are first starting out in the dating world it may take time for one to handle a real relationship. There will be several short relationships. Those will not be useless… They each must have at least taught you something. All of these things add up until you come to a relationship where all your cards are at play- meaning you are ready for a real relationship.
I hope you all found this post interesting, as I have wanted to make a relationships advice post for a looong time.
XOXO, Stacette
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