It took a lot for me to realize the horrible things about my past relationship, only after it had ended. Toxic relationships can be hard to identify sometimes when you’re in them. You come to love or be infatuated with a person and then blind yourself and convince yourself everything is fine, when it’s not. Just like that, I remained in such a relationship for almost 3 years.
This weekend should be something interesting. Romance is the main theme as my boyfriend is taking me to his cottage up north on his island on Georgian Bay. What!
I’ve packed my swimsuit and boy am I ever ready for something we’ve been dreaming about for a while… Star gazing, picnics, boating, and just having time to ourselves. I’m definitely taking my camera!
I’ll be back sometime next week ❤
xoxo, Stacette
The one… More like the one we search for forever and never find! (cough cough due to the media and society’s expectations!)
One must understand that searching for “the one” is not the right way to go. When you are searching for the one you easily have expectations for them… Such as, they have to be handsome, or they MUST love EVERYTHING I love. I will tell you in advance that is exactly how you fall OUT of love. In order to find someone, there has to be a connection, without question. The catch; it won’t only be one relationship with the strong connection… So, there really is no perfect “one”.
It is much like approaching different situations with an open mind. You see what you are most into or can have close ties with, and find a connection. WARNING: The connection doesn’t always spark off at first. It takes a bit of work, such as maybe texting and talking but as soon as feelings and passion are reciprocated, (RECIPROCATED, YOU HEAR? If the other person is unsure it’s not worth your time to wait. period.), you are more than welcome to introduce passion… This is the fuel to the fire. If passion runs out so will the want to try other (more passionate) people… So, keep the fire going! It’s like they say, if you’re bored it means you’re simply a boring person.
To ensure the passion keeps on keeping on, it is important if not essential to maintain your confidence and all of the good virtues in tact. For example, say you have trust issues. You can doubt them all you want, but communication is important and so you must tell the partner what’s wrong. This will give them a hint to fight for you. With that in order the last part is a bit of fun… You can never go wrong with trying something new together and always keeping busy, especially avoiding a routine.
If I could be a little more obvious I would also add:
-you must invest time and QUALITY time into a relationship.
-ensure you’re actually going somewhere in the relationship, don’t sit on the same pedestal forever (AHEM- if they still aren’t sure they want you then it shouldn’t even be a question!)
Lastly, I’d like to note out there to the dating newbies:
When you are first starting out in the dating world it may take time for one to handle a real relationship. There will be several short relationships. Those will not be useless… They each must have at least taught you something. All of these things add up until you come to a relationship where all your cards are at play- meaning you are ready for a real relationship.
I hope you all found this post interesting, as I have wanted to make a relationships advice post for a looong time.
XOXO, Stacette
Ahh, cupid strikes when Veronica meets the lovely and alluring Chaz Beautiful from the boy band, One Erection…
Oh, yes. We went there!
Watch this incredibly special episode of ShowTime!
My life is officially like a movie.
Ok, maybe not a movie, more like a tv show. Heard of the show Suits? So my friend convinced me to watch it and little did I know that just after finishing watching the second season would I be reflecting upon it and seeing how the whole show has had a great impact on the way I think.
Yeah, it did teach me some stuff about law. And, yes, it did also make me start using their way of thought such as the “gun pointed at your head” thing… But what this show really has is a direct relation to my life.
Attention! There may be spoilers!
Dear followers,
I am still alive…
I know, I owe you a post as I really do not have anything for a new daily post and my guess is you’re pretty in the grey about what’s going on with me, so here goes nothing!
Well, the holidays are over, and if you’ve been interested enough, you probably already know that I got a new HD camera to film videos with! Yet, I only had enough time to make one video. one. Sigh. I was busy, not really busy partying as much as last year, but busy with family. Not mine, his. That’s right! I met his family!!! I’m quite sure that it is now, hands down, getting serious. My new years went by pretty quickly, I didn’t care about it at that point because I just wanted to crawl under our blanket and just watch Breaking Bad…
In all honesty, I’m starting to think new years is a bit overrated. Sure, it’s good to be able to start fresh, but why need an excuse? Every morning is a fresh start! Start there!
Partying has lost its effect on me. Drinking isn’t even that fun… I mean, getting drunk, isn’t fun… It feels like artificial happiness, which makes me sort of sad; that people get drunk or high to feel happiness etc.
Anyways, the holidays being over means I have come back to school and my regular routine… I still cannot tell whether I’m feeling better about going to school than before, or whether I am tired (and delusional). I’ve been working on my marks, so I’m prioritizing, but I’m integrating it into time with my friends and luckily that leaves me some time alone with him, also.
Exam week is REALLY close. I am hitting the books hardcore, here. But, I have a question. If exams are so nearby, why introduce summative projects at the last minute, right before exams? I mean, they are pretty time consuming… I’d rather be studying on my own time.
Well, that’s about all I have to share with you, for now, that is!
Love, Stacette
High school relationships are hard.
We here (Llamas of Atlantis) have made your life just a teeny bit easier by making a video on high school relationship do’s and don’ts!
Stupid question, I know. Just hear me out.
PDA is just affection. If we encourage love, why do we get grossed out or just show disgust towards it but then turn into hypocrites when we do it ourselves?
Forget about yesterday’s relief after finishing the entire school production (It’s a collection of one-act plays put into an entire show – took us about two months of work!) because today has something that makes me more nervous than being on stage; Meeting his parents.
So far I’ve read several articles and have some advice and I guess these are main points you should without a doubt remember when going out to meet the rents.
1. Mind your manners! You don’t want to come off on the wrong foot, and this would probably be the worst way to ruin the first impression.
2. Dress conservatively. You probably want to look nice but you don’t want to look… questionable.
3. Relax, don’t overthink it because you could come off as uneasy and just too worried about being polite, it’ll tense the situation.
So I’m going to try and follow those quick tips for today…
Can I just begin with, popularity sucks.
Here is why.
a) you have to take into account other’s ideas about you and ideas of who you should date/be best friends with
b) you have to live up to these expectations
c) you have to explain to everyone why, why oh why you chose the other path
Anyone who decides to think differently about it and turn their cheek on the subject is wrong.
But being a teenager isn’t about staying noble and loyal like some puppy to your parents and everyone around you (if you do then you’ll never survive without your mom, cough cough Victoria on America’s Next Top Model.)
Being a teenager is about starting to take control over your life, making your own decisions, and ultimately breaking some rules and promises if you have to do it to be truly happy or satisfied with your life.
Sometimes it may be right to take a minute to think about consequences, but that is just for a moment, don’t over think things.
By today’s turn of events, I’m going to stick with what my heart says. I’ve been living with the thought that following your mind is what you should do, but I was wrong, it messes you up, almost turns you into a heartless being really. When you are faced to make a decision that could really scar you, you obviously will turn to your mind and start thinking, but it gets out of hand sometimes.
I was faced with either staying with someone with whom I’d have the benefits of a tough football guy who everyone approved of, or going with summer boy which no one approved of. Of course, I had feelings for summer boy. I never really had feelings for the football guy, nor was I physically attractive, so it was either be happy and cross my fingers that people won’t judge my choice (people like football dude’s friends which I’d later have to explain to) or pretend to be happy with someone I never will be with. Feelings take time, sure, but there were also little things in between.
For once I chose my heart over anything else, I really forgot when I was over thinking things. and let me just tell you, it feels so much better.
As cliché as it may sound, follow your heart, make your own decisions, and stick with it. Just do it.
xoxo,
Stacette.
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